I used this as a workbook and it really helped me work through ALL THE FEELINGS I’m having right now, with no real outlet to process them. I feel like how I manage my thoughts and feelings is a constant learning process and this book is one that I will refer to repeatedly. I also don’t feel like this book is a "one and done" read. I really enjoy "self help" books and this one didn't feel overly preachy nor did I feel like she was trying to sell me some 10 step program I needed to purchase after reading this book. I really enjoyed the section about taking back out JOY! She breaks it down into steps: You remove the anxiety from tackling the issues head on. We can retrain our brain to refocus on all the GOOD scenarios that could come about. "Fear often comes from focusing on what might go wrong instead of focusing on what could go right". She also points out that guilt isn’t all bad!! It often motivates us to improve our behavior, do the right thing, and help others.
List your evidence - what supports this truth? Pinpoint your guilt - what is the trigger?Įxamine your thoughts - What am I saying to myself once I’m triggered?Įxchange the lie for truth - What is a more accurate thought about this situation? Through a process called PEEL, she asks questions to get to the heart of the matter: They can teach us when we learn to manage and transform them. She reminds us that negative emotions in themselves are necessarily bad things. Valorie coaches us how to intentionally choose our thoughts and let go of the ones that can take over. When so many mommas are wallowing in guilt and fear and anxiety over every single choice they are currently making, this breaths some fresh life into our souls by allowing us to let go.
It seems every day we are facing new decisions that all seem like the wrong ones. Let Go of the Guilt by Valorie Burton could not have come at a better time for me personally. Do we send the kids to school? Do we homeschool? Do we go to work? Do we try to work from home with a housefly of kids? Do we travel? Do we allow playdates and sleepovers and sporting events? Do we still make the kids have chores? Do we force them to exercise every day? Do we keep screen time limits? Do we still watch what we eat? Do we go to the store or have things delivered? Do we have sex with our spouse when we never have a moment alone? How often is it ok to shower? What if I haven’t washed my hair in 5 days? Am I spending too much money on books? (OK, that one could be just me!) Being a momma in the midst of a pandemic brings a whoooooole new set of challenges.
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